\u00cent\u00e2lniri amuzante, declara\u021bii cu multe inimioare \u0219i iubire cu n\u0103b\u0103d\u0103i\u2026cam a\u0219a a fost rela\u021bia voastr\u0103 \u00een ultimele luni. Era\u021bi convin\u0219i c\u0103 ve\u021bi fi ferici\u021bi toat\u0103 via\u021ba. Dar acum biletul de adio, mesajul cu \u201chai pa\u201d, sau vorba trimis\u0103 printr-un prieten au spulberat bucuria. Via\u021ba ta e ruinat\u0103. Ce po\u021bi s\u0103 faci c\u00e2nd \u201c\u021bi se dau papucii\u201d?<\/p>\n
1. Nu personaliza! \u201cE vina mea\u201d, \u201cNu sunt suficient de slab\u0103, de \u00eenalt\u0103\u201d, \u201cNu merit s\u0103 fiu iubit de o fat\u0103 ca ea\u201d, \u201cEu am gre\u0219it pentru c\u0103\u2026\u201d. E omene\u0219te s\u0103 gre\u0219im, e normal s\u0103 nu fim perfec\u021bi, e \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 nu ne plac\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea, tot timpul. Nu ne putem auto-flagela pentru gre\u0219eli \u0219i imperfec\u021biuni. Dar dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi recuno\u0219ti gre\u0219eala, \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 din ea! \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd recunoa\u0219te, apoi cere\u021bi iertare, asigur\u0103-te c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt a \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi pare r\u0103u \u0219i cere-i cu demnitate \u00eenc\u0103 o \u0219ans\u0103. Dac\u0103 \u021bi-o ofer\u0103, pre\u021buie\u0219te-o. Dac\u0103 nu, respect\u0103 decizia \u0219i asum\u0103-\u021bi trecutul \u0219i prezentul. \u0218i viseaz\u0103 la viitor!<\/p>\n
2. Nu generaliza! \u201cToat\u0103 via\u021ba mea e distrus\u0103\u201d, \u201cE cel mai r\u0103u lucru care mi se putea \u00eent\u00e2mpla\u201d. Poate c\u0103 e cel mai nepl\u0103cut lucru care \u021bi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat p\u00e2n\u0103 acum; cu siguran\u021b\u0103 e\u0219ti r\u0103nit \u0219i suferi, dar \u00een via\u021b\u0103 vei avea parte de multe alte evenimente triste. Apoi nu e chiar toat\u0103 via\u021ba ta distrus\u0103. Mai ai familia, prietenii, o via\u021b\u0103 \u00eenainte, chiar o profesie care te a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 o \u00eent\u00e2mpini cu pasiune \u0219i cu mintea s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103. \u00cei ai pe fra\u021bii t\u0103i, ai s\u0103n\u0103tatea trupului, te ai pe tine \u0219i mai ai o lume \u00eentreag\u0103 \u0219i mii de alte posibilit\u0103\u021bi s\u0103 cuno\u0219ti dragostea.<\/p>\n
3. Nu te g\u00e2ndi c\u0103 aici se opre\u0219te totul! \u201cMai bine mor dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fiu singur\u201d, \u201cDe m\u00e2ine nu mai ies din cas\u0103\u201d, \u201cNu voi putea trece peste suferin\u021ba asta niciodat\u0103\u201d, \u201cNu voi uita ce mi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103\u201d. Posibil s\u0103 \u021bi se pare c\u0103 decizia celuilalt de a te p\u0103r\u0103si e ultimul punct pe borna kilometric\u0103 a vie\u021bii tale. Dar hai s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dau o veste bun\u0103: nu se opre\u0219te via\u021ba aici \u0219i acum \u0219i oric\u00e2t de tare doare, \u0219i chiar doare (\u0219i inima \u0219i stomacul \u0219i capul)\u2026.va trece. \u00cen fiecare zi c\u00e2te pu\u021bin, dar va trece. Nu va dura la nesf\u00e2r\u0219it durerea asta \u0219i peste timp, vei fi vindecat. Abilitatea de a dep\u0103\u0219i greut\u0103\u021bile se nume\u0219te rezilien\u021b\u0103, iar aceasta nu presupune c\u0103 nu tr\u0103ie\u0219ti momente grele, ci c\u0103 nu r\u0103m\u00e2i neputincios \u00een fa\u021ba tuturor acestor greut\u0103\u021bi. Po\u021bi fi dezam\u0103git, furios, trist, dezorientat, \u00eens\u0103 aceste sentimente nu trebuie s\u0103 te opreasc\u0103 \u00een loc.<\/p>\n
4. Nu te pedepsi! Permite-\u021bi s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi, s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi stergi lacrimile \u0219i s\u0103 te bucuri mai departe. Ai auzit probabil de stresul post-traumatic, dar \u0219tii c\u0103 exist\u0103 \u0219i o cre\u0219tere post-traumatic\u0103? Aceasta presupune o via\u021b\u0103 mai profund\u0103, mai responsabil\u0103, mai atent\u0103, chiar dup\u0103 ce ai trecut printr-o traum\u0103.<\/p>\n
5. Ca s\u0103 treci mai repede peste perioada aceasta trist\u0103, s\u0103 te vindeci mai grabnic, \u00ee\u021bi propun un exerci\u021biu. Propune-ti ca la finalul zilei s\u0103 notezi trei motive de fericire, iar pe parcursul zilei \u201cv\u00e2neaz\u0103\u201d acele momente care seara \u0219i-ar merita locul \u00een topul t\u0103u. Poate fi gustul unei pr\u0103jituri, conversa\u021bia lung\u0103 cu mama, mesajul haios primit de la un amic, invita\u021bia de a merge la un concert \u00een weekend, nota bun\u0103 ob\u021binut\u0103 la matematic\u0103, adrenalina ob\u021binut\u0103 la exerci\u021biul fizic, interviul pentru un job, cadoul de la tata, persoana nou\u0103 pe care ai v\u0103zut-o azi \u0219i poate z\u00e2mbetul ei \u00eendreptat c\u0103tre tine.<\/p>\n
C\u0103 \u021bi s-au dat papucii, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 \u021bi s-au t\u0103iat picioarele. Mergi mai departe. Nu ai ajuns \u00eenc\u0103 la destina\u021bie. Urm\u0103toarea oprire poate fi mai lung\u0103, mai pl\u0103cut\u0103, poate fi chiar \u021binta final\u0103 a c\u0103ut\u0103rii tale de iubire. Poate c\u0103 \u021bi s-a t\u0103iat respira\u021bia c\u00e2nd ai aflat c\u0103 e\u0219ti p\u0103r\u0103sit, dar nimeni nu-\u021bi poate t\u0103ia aripile. Respira\u021bia \u021bi s-a normalizat \u00eentre timp, a\u0219a cum se va normaliza \u0219i via\u021ba ta.<\/p>\n
Capul jos\u2026\u00eencal\u021b\u0103 papucii \u0219i apoi privirea \u00eenainte! E\u0219ti mai puternic dec\u00e2t crezi!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00cent\u00e2lniri amuzante, declara\u021bii cu multe inimioare \u0219i iubire cu n\u0103b\u0103d\u0103i\u2026cam a\u0219a a fost rela\u021bia voastr\u0103 \u00een ultimele luni. Era\u021bi convin\u0219i c\u0103 ve\u021bi fi ferici\u021bi toat\u0103 via\u021ba. Dar acum biletul de adio, mesajul cu \u201chai pa\u201d, sau vorba trimis\u0103 printr-un prieten au spulberat bucuria. Via\u021ba ta e ruinat\u0103. Ce po\u021bi s\u0103 faci c\u00e2nd \u201c\u021bi se dau […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":51,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-50","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=50"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=50"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=50"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaisvan.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=50"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}